Posted by Valerie on July 21, 2011
So, here it is. The church. The church is a building. You go there if you want to be there, and when you get there, you do stuff. You can hear a sermon from Galatians or a lecture on how to have a better marriage. Or, have a rummage sale, or charge admission, if you like. Seat the most respectable people in the best places.
If the church is a building where we do stuff, then do what seems best to you.
But the church isn’t a building, right? I’m being silly. The church is people, individuals really and mysteriously formed into one body–
For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit.
For the body does not consist of one member but of many. If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. If all were a single member, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, yet one body.
The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.
Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it. And God has appointed in the church first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, helping, administrating, and various kinds of tongues. Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? Do all possess gifts of healing? Do all speak with tongues? Do all interpret? But earnestly desire the higher gifts.
And I will show you a still more excellent way.
–I Corinthians 12:12-31
The church isn’t even people coming into a building; the church is people coming together, as one Body, to worship and learn Christ. How is “coming together, as one Body” optional, when it is our coming together as one Body to worship that makes us a church? Coming together is not just something we do; it is what makes us who we are, together, by miracle and by mandate. Coming together, as one Body, is essential to our definition.
Does Scripture ever teach that we can divide the church based on ability, age, or appearance? No indeed. I Corinthians 12 is clear that we have no authority to exclude, or to marginalize those who are weaker and less presentable. (I don’t know about you and yours, but my small ones are always weaker and occasionally less presentable.)
Some of the comments at Tim Challies’ Divided review insist that without a Bible verse, we can pick and choose who of the church gets to be among the church when we meet to worship.
But consider this,
“The visible Church, which is also catholic or universal under the Gospel (not confined to one nation, as before under the law), consists of all those throughout the world that profess the true religion; and of their children: and is the kingdom of the Lord Jesus Christ, the house and family of God, out of which there is no ordinary possibility of salvation.” – The Westminster Confession of the Faith
The church is not a building within which we hold programs. The church is a people, coming together as one Body to worship Christ, our Lord, together.
If the church is a building, have a bake sale, play backgammon, and feed little children goldfish crackers in a separate room.
But the church is one Body. It seems to me that those who would divide her are the ones who need the Bible verse.
I have no authority to tell any church what to do. That’s certainly not my place. But for the reasons I’ve stated here, and many others as well, I am grateful to worship together with my children and all our church’s children every Lord’s Day. I look out across the congregation and don’t see only those who are growing old to leave us but also those who are growing up to take and increase our places. It’s a beautiful thing.
Posted by Valerie on July 20, 2011
Official Divided the Movie (HD Version) from NCFIC on Vimeo.
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Our family attends a family-integrated church, which is not formally affiliated with The National Center for Family-Integrated Churches. I enjoyed this short film and have shared it with family and friends.
Tim Challies has posted a very unfavorable review, which caught my attention today. I appreciate the fact that Challies doesn’t agree with the premise of the film makers, but the review seems to me to include some errors that are worth considering.
Here are my thoughts–
I do not know the LeClercs or any of the participants in this film, but my children have attended Lifest, the Wisconsin Christian music festival featured in the film, several times, as have a number of young people from our church. I took that segment as a reasonable attempt to find a wide representation of Christian young people with a small investment of time and money.
This review is very disappointing and seems to include some significant factual errors and improper assertions, as follows:
1. I watched Divided twice, once today, and I didn’t notice nurseries being mentioned at all, let alone being produced as evidence for evolutionary thinking and pagan influence. Some family-intergrated churches [FICs] make a nursery available for infants and toddlers and some do not.
2. I did not think that the shots from Lifest were an attempt to paint an ugly picture of an entire generation, and I somewhat doubt the insinuation that the producers are not in favor of good, clean fun. (The LeClerc family may have stricter standards than mine, but I don’t know that, and that’s really not something that would merit my disapproval anyway.)
3. The girl with the “mohawk” did not have “a face full of piercings.” She had one ring on her nose, which doen’t necessarily disqualify her from being treated with respect.
4. This girl was not presented as an advocate for youth ministry at all, let alone its sole advocate. She gave her opinion on a concert. That she is repeatedly presented in Challies’ review as the LeClercs’ somewhat devious attempt to provide sole advocacy for youth ministry seems, perhaps, a bit unkind and somewhat inaccurate. (I’ll avoid borrowing the phrase, “not only uncharitable but also utterly ridiculous.”)
5. Challies writes, “He chooses the intellectuals of the FIC to represent his view and chooses the young and foolish to represent the other side.” This is untrue. Multiple youth pastors were interviewed for this documentary and spoke in favor of their ministries, while exposing what seems to be an increasingly widespread lack of family worship and family-based discipleship of children and young people.
6. This documentary does not suggest that children should never participate in a program led by someone other than their father. The whole point of family integration is to expose our children to the instruction of their pastors and elders at least weekly.
7. Challies writes, “Does a young person who comes to love and respect his pastor necessarily mean that it comes at the expense of love and respect for his father? This sets up a false and unfair dichotomy,” but–if so–this appears to be Challies’ false and unfair dichotomy. This documentary never made that assertion, its point being that we parents must bring our children under the authority and guidance of their pastors hoping, among other things, that they will love and respect them. Pastors are not just for big people.
8. Challies’ assessment of the “real” problem–that the vast numbers of children that we are losing are being lost by the hypocrites in the church–almost begs the question. Off the cuff, there’s no strong reason to regard it as more credible than the assertion it opposes. (And does he truly believe that eighty percent of the children in our churches are born to hypocrites?)
9. Carrying a charge of divisiveness into the public sphere demands an approach that does not come across, itself, as divisive. Perhaps only to me, but it seems that there is something uncharitable and somewhat divisive in this review, provoking a wee bit of the same in some of the comments.
10. The charge that FICs make age-integration “the central doctrine of the church,” such that it is elevated “instead of the Gospel message” should be retracted. Neither this movie nor any of the writings of the participating pastors offer any grounds for such a serious charge. Indeed, there is abundant, readily available evidence that these men are diligent and faithful preachers of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.
When it comes to secondary issues, it’s not really necessary to oppose them, or attempt to put a stop to them. This is not heresy, so it shouldn’t really be too “troubling” to those who don’t think it’s important or helpful.
If I ever go to a church where the folks over 65 have their own separate service and are neither welcome in corporate worship nor invited to participate fully in the Body of Christ, I will surely consider it a strange thing and wonder where it got its start in history and in presupposition.
I don’t believe that age-graded, church-based instruction is inherently evil. It may very well be a lawful adjunct to what is expressly commanded by God, corporate worship and family discipleship. While it’s possible that the case for FIC was overstated in Divided, I do believe that these things are evil–
1. Abandoning family worship for age-based church programs.
2. Trading parental discipleship for discipleship by “experts” in the church.
I’m not presenting a false dichotomy. Where this isn’t happening, then it’s not happening, so there’s not a problem, right? But where it is happening, as it is in some places and in many homes (and maybe not only among Challies’ “hypocrites”), then it’s not just a problem but an occasion for repentance. To the extent that Divided is a call to examine our doctrine and practice and consider an alternative, I am glad that it has been made available. I don’t have to agree with every word presented on the family-integrated church side in order to find something that I appreciate.
Posted by Valerie on September 13, 2010
I enjoyed Ask the kids: Do you want a big family?, so I thought I’d ask my own kids the same question. (If you click through, be sure to read little Perry’s response at the end! It’s priceless.)
I also answer the question for myself at the end of this post.
Heather, 20
Yes, because it’s what I’m used to, and I like the dynamics of a big family. I don’t think it’s our business to try and regulate the number of children we have, so that is part of it too. I think that making babies is a privilege that God takes pleasure in.
Kristen, 18
Well, I don’t want only one child because they’d be all alone, and it would be very easy to spoil the child. So I want at least two, but I don’t think I could handle more than six. And I think I’d have a hard time naming more than that many children! Yes, there are a lot of names I like, but I wouldn’t want to afflict my children with most of them.
Kelsey, 16
I don’t know. I haven’t really thought about it, but “you get what you get, and you don’t make a fit.”
Katelyn, 15
Yes, I would like to have a big family. I don’t really know why I would want a little one, but I never really thought of a number. I guess I’ll be happy with whatever I get. I like children, and I would like to have them as long as I can. If I couldn’t have children of my own, I would probably adopt and I would want to adopt little black babies, because they are SO cute!
Heidi, 14
I want 4 or 6 kids, one of those, an even number, because that’s the perfect number. I have a feeling that without kids a marriage would probably not last very long, but I’m not going to say why.
Alicia, 11
I would like to have an even dozen, because people could say “You’re just like _Cheaper by the Dozen_ and because it IS cheaper by the dozen.
And, besides, it would be so much easier to buy eggs.
You need to have one more kid, Mom, and it needs to be a girl. I think a little girl should be the end of a family, like “big brother and little sister.”
Amalie, 10
Yes, I would. I would like to have 14 or 15 kids because I really like kids. They are really, really cute, and they are fun to play with. And the more people you have, the easier it is to go places, like camping, because you have so many people to help. And if you have 14 or 15 kids, you can’t get lonely.
Erik, 8
I want six kids, because I don’t want too many kids and I don’t want too less kids.
But if you have another kid, it should be a boy.
David, 7
I heard the pastor at camp preaching about Abraham, and I remembered that I wanted as much descendents as all the stars in the world. And I would like to wrestle with them and play with them. And I like being with people and having fun with them. I LOVE kids, and I want somebody to be with so I don’t get lonely. And they can help me do things faster. And I wonder how many weight machines I’ll have in my house, because my kids would like to exercise on them.
When will I be big enough to use the weight bench?
Rebekah, 5
I want a BIG family, because I want a BIG house. I want six little kids and twelve big kids. I love kids because they are cute!
Gunnar, 3
I want a LOT of KIDS, because I LOVE THEM! And because they are fun. (And when I am grown up, I will bring my “sisters” and my boys to visit you at your house.)
The Mommy
Our lives have been very hard in some ways, especially over the last 8 years, but I love having a big family, and I look forward to having many grandchildren, if God pleases.
I wholeheartedly believe the Bible truth that my children are a blessing to me, but far more compelling is the fact that they are a blessing to God. Each of them was especially created for His glory, for His honor, for His praise, for Jesus must forever be praised by millions upon millions of the saints of all the ages.
I like MORE, because Christ is worthy of MORE praise and because joyful fruitfulness in marriage tells a very important truth about the relationship between Christ and His church, especially when it occurs in the midst of difficulty.
Posted by Valerie on November 23, 2009
I’ve taken some time off from blogging due to some illness. I had surgery earlier this month and feel much better than I have in months!
2.1 Million Drop-side Cribs Recalled
Stupid. Stupid, stupid, stupid.
This is an attack on American businesses and American families, and it won’t save lives.
When you read about two million cribs dating back sixteen years, don’t think “two million babies.” These cribs have been used for second and third children and passed on to sisters-in-law and sold in garage sales. When you read about two million cribs, think multiple millions of happy, healthy, safe babies.
Four infants suffocated in broken or improperly assembled cribs. That’s an image that my mind reflexively attempts to eject, but with four deaths among multiple millions of babies I can only conclude that these cribs are safe.
Babies die because humans are born and live their whole lives fragile; sadly, it just doesn’t take that much to hurt us. Automobiles, tricycles, homes with stairs, sidewalks, grapes, hotdogs, potato chips, playgrounds, swimming pools, and day care centers are all more dangerous than these cribs!
Stork Craft already recalled 500,000 cribs in January due to mattress bracket failures. (No serious injuries; no deaths.) With both recalls considered, Stork Craft has now committed to mailing replacement part kits to up to 2.6 million consumers.
Is this really best for babies? Think about it. Stork Craft has to cover the legal bills it’s already incurred, whatever law suits crop up now, the replacement parts, the communication and the postage along with possibly dozens of costs that haven’t occured to me.
Where will this money come from? It will come from some combination of laying off employees (no baby or child ever feels the effects of that), decreasing production costs (harmless, certainly), and increasing retail prices (if no crib, then what?).
Is this really best for babies? The government should have left the question open. Thanks to CPSIA, now, these cribs won’t appear in any thrift store or any crisis pregnancy center. No one’s going to go to jail to fence a cheap crib.
I promise you that there are mothers who can’t afford a new crib. Without a safe used crib, and if they don’t take their babies to bed with them, what will they use? A dresser drawer? A cardboard box? A basket not engineered for baby use? The narrow space between a mattress and the wall?
I wish that you could reassure me that no baby could possibly be hurt by this horrible ruling, but you can’t.
I wish that you could reassure me that within five years some social worker won’t be taking a baby because he’s sleeping in a clean cardboard box, but you can’t.
Did anyone mention that the parts in the replacement kits will also eventually wear out or be improperly installed?
What then?
Posted by Valerie on April 10, 2008
Have you seen this article?
I dress my eleventh baby, Gunnar, from thrift stores.
I definitely didn’t buy him 70 toys in his first year, and I’ll homeschool him for next to nothing.
But not every luxury is measured by its cost.
See this list.
The ipod’s electronics will become obsolete.
The airline ticket has been spent.
Flowers die.
The pizza was eaten.
The bomber will rust.
The island will disappear due to Global Warming. (Or not.)
Someday the game will be over, but Lord willing our baby Gunnar will live forever.
